Merry meet all,
Samhain is a festive time. It can also be a stressful time. You want to break out the cauldrons, besoms and maybe a skull or two. But there is always that one person who will never understand why you do what you do. Don’t fret over it. Here are some coping skills.
One Keep your cool. If you want to be taken seriously for your Craft, then try staying calm. I know the urge to burn tons of sage in your room to keep out a nosy disapproving aunt is overwhelming but it might not be the solution. (For the most part, I can’t blame you but I digress.) I live with not being understood by not just muggles but EVERYONE around me 24 out of 7. If it helps, distract yourself with a hobby. Go for a walk. A walk can help to clear your head and give you a fresher perspective on things.
Two Try discussing it – and here is the big word, Calmly with those who don’t understand your desire to commune with your chosen god or goddess. Losing your cool or temper only makes you look bad. Prove you are knowledgeable about your craft and they will take you more seriously.
Three If you live at home with parents still, and I am not suggesting you suddenly get your own apartment before having the financial means to do so just to be a witch and defy parents. Real maturity means understanding everyone’s perspective. It is hard I know but believe me, its better. If company is coming over and you know some of them don’t understand or will react in a hostile way to your beliefs, discuss it with parents beforehand. Again try to do this calmly. Then call or text a trusted friend to vent and meet over a coffee or two.
Four If that doesn’t work, then just stay in your room and be alone. If you tried the above suggestions and it still didn’t work out, don’t sweat it. Stay calm and be alone until the company leaves. I live on my own and I still deal with certain things. I know how it feels. I have had family members ostracize me for being a witch and refuse to speak to me. They treated me like I was out of my mind when I asked for an explanation. I know it sucks. Unfortunately, it is the way the world is. Thanks to the Church and media for poisoning the public against witches- the real poisoned apple, anyone? We are perceived a certain way. I am believing lately that can’t be changed but how we react to it can.
Five No one said life was fair. We can’t change anyone around us but we can change ourselves. In other words, we can control our responses to things. Life is bloody unfair. I do realize that. But I have accepted that I am not understood. I have moved on. I am not dwelling on it. I do think of it from time to time. But I wasn’t given an explanation which I think was harsh but that is the way they are. If someday they want a resolution, I might be there to talk to them but I would remember the way I was treated. I didn’t deserve it but I see the situation that led to that. I won’t discuss it here but at the same time, if an explanation is never given, the person is forced to arrive at their own conclusion. So if a resolution between us is never reached, I will still live peacefully with it. That is because I now understand everything, I understand the situation and I know that my response to it is something I can control.
Now…. I hope this helps anyone who is struggling with feeling misunderstood or such. I hope this reaches those people. Present yourself as a mature adult or teen or whatever you are and more understanding might be created. Have a fun Samhain! Be yourself. Your awesome mystical wonderful amazing self.
Here are some cool links:
The first links takes you to a podcast. The podcast is an interview with a wonderful master storyteller and friend of mine, Steve Vernon. He shares some haunted tales of Halifax. The podcast is almost an hour long.
Here is some fun spooky reading through the month of October. The Horror Writers Association hosts an annual blog event which I am partaking in. Enjoy. http://horror.org/halloween-haunts-welcome-michele-brittany/
My short story, The Grimm Pumpkin, is published in this awesome eerie anthology One Night in Salem. FunDead Publications has also produced a few other books and they are worth checking out. To learn more, go to my Paranormal & Witchy Fiction blog and then to Published works page, where you can click on the thumbnail image to be directed to the publisher’s website.
So if the stress is driving you insane, chill out with those above links.
Blessed Mabon near Samhain,